I love Facebook.
Most of the time.
But recently I experienced one of the most hurtful things I've experienced in a very long time.
There's a reason, made very obvious to me just this past week, to not discuss politics.
The problem comes when people who deeply believe different things stop "discussing" and stoop to personal insults. Or worse - invite their friends in to sling the personal insults, thinking, I guess, that this saves them from having to own their actions.
And then after leaving the conversation, the insults continue behind your back.
Try to lay some facts on the table and you get called condescending.
Beware of those you call friend.
They're the ones who will hurt you the most.
And here's another bit of pettiness which has been called to my attention having to do with Facebook.
For some reason people I know have brought to question the fact that I have so many Facebook friends who are published authors. Apparently not believing that any of these people could possibly be a "real" friend. Why would they want to be friends with me, for heaven's sake - I am, apparently, just nothing special and no one that anyone "famous" would ever waste their time on.
I'd love to post pictures here of me with the writers I do, in fact, know personally. But you know, I shouldn't have to defend who I am. There are lots of those pictures available all over the web of me with some of these people. Lots of them right here at my blog and links in the sidebar to conventions I've attended. Some of these writers I know very well, some I have only met briefly at the conventions I attend. Many I've known for a very long time - some since before they ever had their first book published. They are honest friendships that have grown over the years.
No one can hurt you quite like a "friend.
And - the other recent hurt.
"She says she's written a book."
Nice conversation, huh?
"Friends" love to share these conversations they've had or overheard. For some reason they think (or so they say) that we "need" to know what other people are saying about us.
No one can hurt you quite like a "friend."