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Friday, March 18, 2011

Waiting on Life's Answers by Coco Ihle

First, let me thank our lovely Kaye for asking me to join you all today. Kaye, you’re a doll.

Like a cat, I believe I’m probably in life number seven. I started out as an orphan, was an USAF officer’s wife for twenty plus years during which I became a mom, had a career as a professional Middle Eastern belly dancer for another twenty years, was a staff writer for an international dance magazine for ten years, got certified in interior decorating, won some awards for my sculpture designs in leather, was a bagpiper in the St. Andrew’s Pipe Band of Montgomery, Alabama, had a short memoir published in 2009, and now my first mystery book, SHE HAD TO KNOW will be released in April. My website is  http://cocoihle.com and my book will be available as an e-book, as well.




 












Waiting on Life's Answers 
by Coco Ihle
 
When you first got the idea for a book, did you realize you couldn’t write it until life gave you more answers?  That was my dilemma.

Having been a product of foster care and adoption, my dream was to find my birth family and write a book involving my search. The problem was, it took years to gather little bits of information that were wedged sparingly against the brick walls I ran into and then put them together like a jigsaw puzzle.
 
My adoptive parents were secretive and my adoption files were sealed, so little information was available until I was “of age.” One day, however, I learned my birth name when my adopted mother had a slip-of-the-tongue. I was successful in finding out some general facts since I’d had the instinct as a toddler to stay in touch with the lady in charge of my placement in the various foster homes in which I resided. She told me I had two sisters and gave me their birth dates, but no names or other details. The laws of the state in which I grew up forbade any disclosure beyond general facts. I was also aware my adoptive parents were sensitive about not being able to have children of their own and I didn’t want to hurt them with my inquiries.

When my adoptive parents died, my adoption documents were in their safe-deposit box. At the age of thirty-six I learned my birth parents’ names and of my first-generation Scots-American heritage.
 
I wrote letters, made phone calls and hired professionals to help me and even became aware there were scam artists in the world. This renewed search triggered emotions of hope, enthusiasm, exhilaration, disappointment, even—devastation, but giving up was not an option.
 
More than fifty years went by from the start of my search. Thanks to the ALMA Society, a computer -based nonprofit organization that helps connect families affected by adoption, I found one sister and my book began forming in my mind. I wanted to know more about her; what was important to her, what touched her, how she dealt with the same things I had dealt with.
 
This information found its way into my book, but since so much of it was sad, I found it difficult to write about and didn’t want anyone to feel sorry for us.  After all, we had survived better than some children. So, I found myself reticent when it came time for the sisters to meet in the book, and I left out much of what we faced. It may appear in future books as the sisters learn more about each other, but their relationship is still new in SHE HAD TO KNOW and I preferred to emphasize their joy.
 
I must be clear my book is fiction, not a memoir. Although there are autobiographical elements in it, I have created a murder mystery out of my rather overactive imagination that sprung from the fantasies of my childhood. In SHE HAD TO KNOW, Arran Hart and her sister Sheena Buchanan nearly lose their lives searching for a treasure and a murderer in a Scottish castle. I hope you enjoy it.

What life issues did you have to experience before you could write your book?


10 comments:

Molly Swoboda said...

Delightful interview with Coco. Looking forward to the book release. So many "friends" on the upcoming guest list. Thanks so much, Kaye!

Peg Brantley said...

Coco, what a story you have to tell.

I'm not sure about life experiences and writing, but I do believe you have to have reached a certain age before you can really understand the blues—and a lot of country music as well.

Until I reached whatever age it was, I didn't understand the pain and rejection my mom felt (as an example) when life threw her a curve ball. I thought she should've just sucked it up and gone on as if nothing had happened. In truth, I may have even blamed her a bit for things. A little life, a little experience . . . better perspective.

Good luck to you!

Kaye Barley said...

Welcome, Coco - delighted to have you, and look forward to reading SHE HAD TO KNOW.

Molly - Hi! How nice to see you here! Lots of fun friends coming up, huh?! Hope you'll stop back by to see them all.

Coco said...

Thank you, Molly. Yes, I feel extremely honored to be on such an illustrious list of authors!
And Peg, perhaps you are right. Maturity does have a better insight. Thanks for your good wishes. The best to you, as well.

Earl Staggs said...

Coco, your book sounds interesting as does your own life's journey. I'll look forward to reading it.

ptbertram said...

Sounds like a fascinating story written by a fascinating woman. Best of luck with your book, Coco!

Coco said...

Thank you so much, Earl. From an author of your stature, I feel honored. Hope you enjoy it.

Pat, thank you for such kind words.

John Peden said...

Blog is all true Very nice intelligent lady, and great Belly Dancer and Bagpiper. We have known her for about 30 years. JKP

Vicki Lane said...

Having read and enjoyed your terrific debut mystery, I really like hearing more of the story behind it, Coco!

Coco said...

Oh, my goodness, Dr. Peden, I blush. Thank you for such lovely compliments!

And Vicki, I am forever grateful you agreed to take time out of your very busy schedule to read my book.I am so happy you enjoyed it.